Discipline

I started reading a book called "Discipline From Birth to Three." I enjoy reading this book because it has other peoples short stories and thoughts on it. I think it's important to start disciplining your child since they are young. Its just that people have different ways to discipline. What someone thinks its right, for another person it might be wrong. For example I'm Hispanic so our way to discipline a child is way different then how someone from a different race would discipline their kids. In one of the short stories a girl named Belia had to deal with a tantrum her 2 year old was throwing over candy. She said she just picked him up and left, leaving all her stuff in the basket. If i was her 2 year old knowing my parents they would just let me cry. Even though it hurts you to see your child cry, its the only way they will know. You have to be hard on them, you cant always let them get their way. Or they will just get use to it and keep doing it over and over again.

Suspension

I got suspended yesterday fro 3 days. Its sucks because since its the last days of the session, I cant make up work and I'm going to miss the final test in science. You see it all started last week at MacDonald's when me and my friends went out to eat for lunch. We were just sitting there when Carlita the girl that goes out wit my son's dad and some girl named Zenaida walked in. Maria doesn't like Zenaida because of stuff that happened between them and me and Carlita fought last year at Evergreen, and she don't like me since I'm having a baby from Moe. That day Maria got up to go to the bathroom and Carlita and Zenaida followed her in there. Alicia knew they were going to try to do something so her and ester went right behind them. I staid watching the food. That same night Maria was talking to her friend Evelyn and told Maria that Carlita called a guy named Hawi and said how her and Zenaida were planning on jumping Maria in the bathroom. On Wednesday me and my friends saw Zenaida with her boyfriend, we didn't say nothing to her maybe just gave her dirty looks. And that same night Maria gets a call from Evelyn saying that Zenaida went to Carlita crying saying we punked her, and that Carlita was mad and was going to get 15 girls to go to our school and jump us. But to jump especially me so that I can lose the baby. And said that she didn't like Maria because she went out with Moe as well. Maria and I both know how Hawi is and how he puts words in other peoples mouths. So we decided to go see what was going on ourselves. We confronted Zenaida and she denied everything and looked like she was about to start crying, but Carlita was quiet the whole time. Once we confronted Carlita she started taking things the wrong way and was just pointless to talk to her. I was in the car with Ester while Maria and Alicia were talking to them. All of a sudden Carlita started calling all of us names and that's when everything started. Me and another girl that was with Carlita and Zenaida were trying to stop them. We left and the whole day I was just receiving messages from friends at Evergreen asking what happened. It was none of their business so I just didn't write back, but Carlita and Zenaida went and told a whole different story making it seem like all four of me and my friends got beat up. When it wasn't even like that whats so ever. Next week at school Maria, Alicia and I got called in to the office and got suspended and yet the other girls are trying to get me and my friends jumped. But I'm the main one Carlita wants.

Getting Ready For Raymond

I been so stressed out this last couple of days. Mostly about school, getting all my work done, and getting good grades. You see I only had 4.5 credits left to graduate in the beginning of the year. I never planned to go back to school, I was just planning on working full time and saving up money. My parents talked to me about how was I going to make my son go to school and get his education when I didn't even finished school. They were right, that's when I decided to enroll in New Start. I really want to finish by December, but if I have to stay till January its okay too as long as I finish before I give birth. Another thing that's been stressing me out is making sure I have everything ready before Raymond arrives. I have like 3 cousins that have baby boys that are like 4 months now. They are being nice enough to save me the baby clothes their kids don't wear no more. Last night one of them came and brought me 2 big boxes full of baby clothes. I been putting everything I got from her and the baby shower away. Raymond is not even born yet and already has a lot of stuff, I had to give up my dresser to put his clothes in there. He has 2 dressers full of clothes and I only have my small closet to store my things. I was making a list of things I need, and its mostly little things like bottles, bibs, small toys and lotions. I still have 2 more months to get ready, but 2 months go by fast, and its stressful.

Chalenging Labors and Cesarean Birth (part 2)

There are also medical methods to start labor, some of the most common once are prostaglandin, pitocin and artificial rupture of the membranes. Prostaglandin is put in the vagina to help ripen, its the same substance in semen. This substance comes in different forms gel, tampon-like or pills. Pitocin is a drug just like the oxytocin made by your body, its given to start contractions. This substance is given by an IV, It starts at a slow dose and once contractions start the dose increase. Artificial rupture of the membranes (AROM) means breaking the bag of water with a plastic hook. Its used more often to speed up labor rather then starting it. When my sister had my niece I remember that she had high blood pressure and they had to start labor early. They did all 3 methods on her. She said that once they broke her water it didn't hurt, but it felt as she had peed. Her mood got really grumpy after, and was complaining about everything. There are also different types of labor like a short but fast labor. Short labor goes by really fast and is more painful contractions come one after the other. There are many things you can do during this type of labor. First of all make sure you get to the hospital as fast as possible and take deep breaths. I would want to have this type of labor since its faster then you can just get it over with, but I just don't know about the contraction parts. As i was reading on there was a small box with information on how you can know if your baby is coming. The scariest one was you can see and maybe even touch his head at the opening. I would get so scared if I just felt something wet and hard down there, especially knowing its my sons head popping out, knowing me ill start panicking.

Challenging Labors and Cesarean Birth

The Chapter i been reading about has to do with the different types of labor and cesarean births. It also gives out tips on different ways to make labor easy. One type of labor would be inducing labor, in other words starting labor when it doesn't start on its own. That is when the doctor uses medical methods instead of letting it start on its own. Another medical term for inducing labor is induction. The doctor should give medical reasons for inducing labor and you have to make sure you know the reason before agreeing. My grandma had this type of labor when giving birth to my mom. She had it a couple weeks before the due date only because my grandpa would be present. And that was the only birth of his my grandpa assisted, because he was a sailor and had to go out to sea a lot he missed on all his children's birth except my mom's. In the book it talks about things you can do when labor is slow to star. Like walking, Castor oil, sex or rubbing your nipples. Walking helps out more when your having prelabor contractions and it keeps labor going rather then starting it. Castor oil is an old method women use to use to start labor because of its strong smell. The only problem is the side effects which is bad cramping and diarrhea. Sex causes contractions especially when you have an orgasm. Semen can also help because of its substance in it called prostaglandi, which is the same thing the body makes so that the cervix becomes softer. But you just cant have sex if the your water hasn't broken.

My Baby's Daddy

Raymond's dad is named Mohamed Sadik, and is from Syria. Moe and I started dating when we were 15 years old and broke up last October. Our relationship was great except for when he listened to his friends and would let them get to him. He met most of my family and would come over every once in a while. In the summer of 2008 he changed a lot, he started thinking he was the big thing and started problems with my cousin. His mood would change one day he'll be all up on me and the next starting fights with me for no reason. My mom would say that he was on drugs or something, most of my family stopped liking him. He became very controlling wouldn't even let me go to family parties, when ever I was with him he would take my phone and check it all. I wouldn't be able to talk to no guys what's so ever, even look at them. He didn't even care if they were my cousins, I couldn't talk to them because he thought I lied to him saying they were my cousins. He wouldn't show up to my house at all, and started talking about my cousin saying how they were want to be gangsters. Our Senior year came and supposedly there was to many thing running through his head so decided to take a break, but told me I still wasn't able to talk to no guys. That day after school my cousin and his friends picked me up and Moe got mad, he turned around and started hugging this little freshman girl, that's been wanting to get with him. Ever since that day they started going out but was still trying to get me back at the time. After 5 months he found out she cheated on him with his best friend and we decided to try it out again. We were together for about 3 months when she came out of no where saying she was pregnant, I told him she was just saying that to get him back or it wasn't even his. But he went back to her and left me, a week later I found out I was pregnant and when I told him he didn't believe me. After a month he hit me up saying she wasn't pregnant and wanted to be back with me but I denied him, and he asked for a chance to at least let him help me out and I accepted that offer. They started dating again and I believe she got stuff stuck in his head, Because he called me denying my kid and talking a bunch of mess. That's the last I heard from him till a month ago when he called to let me know he was going to Detroit, but was going to try to be back before "our kid was born" I just laughed when he said that.

Staying Healthy After Pregnancy

When I was in class Maria was telling me that I should buy a corset or something so that I wont get a gut, which is the last thing I want. So I started researching ways I can stay healthy after I give birth and found a lot of tips. There was a tip I came across that really caught my attention. "It took nine months to get there. It should take at least that long to get back to their fighting weight." Meaning your not going to go back to your old body right away its going to take time. Specially if you don't stay healthy and take care of yourself, like not eating right or exercising. Its easier to loss weight faster if you only gained between 25-35 pound in the pregnancy. Then if you were overweight before the pregnancy or put on more weight then needed during pregnancy. In the research I found a lot of interesting tips, like not going on an official diet. The reason is because playing the new role of a mother can already cause so much stress and adding the fact that you wont be able to eat right can cause you to gain more weight. A big tip for losing weight is breastfeeding, studies have been done and it is said that brestfeeding can help you return to your pre-pregnancy weight faster. Im so glad I decided to look up all this information, since none of it was in the book i wouldn't had known. And knowing myself I would have put myself on a strict diet.